Monday, November 28, 2005

The PHONE. And associated mysteries.

My previous boyfriend (ExTheBoy) did not want to talk on the phone. Hated it. Even when we lived miles apart and only saw each other on weekends, he hated it. He did it for me, but he hated it.

Which I hated, at first, his hating the phone. And then I got used to it. Plus I was told by several Men I Respect (including my dad) that Most Men Don't Like The Phone. So I resigned myself to the fact that I was never going to date a guy who liked to talk on the phone, and I might as well Get Used To It Now. And then I began to look at The Phone objectively. And then I realized, hey, you know what? Most people don't give good phone. I am one of those people. I CAN have good conversations, it's just that talking to someone on the phone night after night for hours at time...well, what the hell am I going to talk about all that time? I began to dislike the phone, and enjoy my dislike. And I thanked the male race for, once again, releasing me from the shackles of femininity.

And now I'm dating CAE, and we live farther apart than ExTheBoy and I did. (Fifty-seven miles.) And of course, what happens? It turns out that CAE LOVES the phone. Calls me every night. Tries to keep me on it.

When I all I want to do is get off the phone, read old archives of SheWalks, wash my face, and go to bed. But he's dying to keep me on, and so I ask intelligent questions, at a time when my attention level is very low, and I'm praying I can remember this conversation in which he poured his heart out to me in the morning.

7 comments:

ramblin' girl said...

so do you remember your conversation? I also used to like talking on the phone, but would so much rather talk face to face now...

Anonymous said...

There's only a few times I like phone conversations. The later it is, the more likly whomever I am talking to is relaxing and letting down their guard. You get to know a person a lot better when they're not worrying about what they're saying.

-Q

Aarwenn said...

RG-Yes, I do!

Because I went to bed thinking, "Must remember this. Must remember this. Must remember this."

Kat said...

GOD I hate the freaking phone! Chalk it up to years of being forced to answer it at work. I hate for my home phone to ring and for it to be a friend I really need to talk to but don't have the energy.

Maybe you should start reading K's archives outloud on the phone and then you'll be killing two birds w/ one stone and getting a good laugh.

Aarwenn said...

Kat: BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!

You're completely awesome. Why didn't I think of that before?

kiwi said...

I like the phone, and you do give good phone, at least to me, but there is a tolerance. ANd I've been to the point where I talk to someone all the time where I'm just rolling my eyes on the phone or playing videogames or wandering around just saying 'uh huh'. And that sucks. I only talk to Landon once every couple of weeks, and then we usually have a lot to say. Of course, we've known each other for more than a decade and aren't sleeping together.

Aarwenn said...

Too bad. That would be really, really hot.