Friday, August 12, 2005

I am the biggest failure ever

It's true. I am.

1) Yesterday, I took a sick day from work. Because I WAS sick. And yet I ALSO needed new jeans. Because the ones I had been wearing had gigantic crotch holes. So I went to the Tacoma Farmer's Market, for breakfast, which was awesome, and then I came home, put my flowers in water, took Dayquil, and took off to the Supermall. I bought tons of jeans, made a date to see BestFriend and try on all the jeans for her enjoyment, and drove back home. On the way back home, I took a left, apparently failed to see a motorcycle, and he crashed directly into me on the driver's side door.

I got out of the car. I thought he was dead. I didn't know WHAT to do. Millions of people stopped--it was rush hour, after all--and I called 911 and the police showed up and we had all kinds of excitement. I was in total shock. The motorcyclist turned out to be fine--he had a broken shoulder--and they towed my car off to the impound and from now on it's just a money issue, but for awhile they were holding the scene in case it became a crime scene, because if the motorcyclist died...well, I didn't want to think about it. But then it WOULD be a crime scene and they'd have to re-investigate the whole thing. So that didn't happen, which is good.

Other good things: I had just reinstated my insurance (a week ago), so I'm insured. My premiums will go up, but hey--this is why I HAVE insurance, right? It's unlikely that the car will be totalled--it's just a motorcycle, so the impact wasn't anything like a car would have been. From now on it's just a money issue and I can't do anything about it. Except ride around with my mother.

2) B----- has this time system, right? You have to enter your time in, and every Thursday, when the pay period ends, you have to sign your weekly time. It seems like a small thing, but it's not--my manager gets his hand slapped every time I forget, and he starts to get mad. After all the mess yesterday, I forgot to input my time, and he just sent me an email: "Next time you forget, disciplinary action will be taken." Just what I need--to be fired.

3) Also yesterday, during my day of hooky, TheBoy was also home and doing nothing. I could have called him, but didn't think about it. I assumed he'd be working, and besides, I had called him the night before and he hadn't called back yet. And then when I crashed, I called both LongtimeFriend and BestFriend before I called him. By the time I called him, he was on the phone with another important call, and he couldn't answer--and then he had to be at work. By the time he had time to come over and comfort me, New Roommate was already there, making sure the doggies got along--they do! They play really well together!--so he was doubly frustrated from sweeping me off my feet.

Apparently now he's mad that I didn't call him first, before anyone else---"This is what I'm here for, babe," he said--and mad that I didn't call him yesterday when I was around town doing nothing. Of course, if I had called him, I probably wouldn't be in this predicament, but what are you gonna do. Everything turned out okay--he cuddled me for a long time until I fell asleep. But he's right--I purposely didn't call him first because I was worried he was going to be judgemental and worried he would be mad at me for being stupid and, and, and.

Apparently this week I just can't win.


Julie said...

Oh my, talk about your crappy day! Did you take pictures at the scene?? Did you admit fault in any way, shape or form? Thank GOD you have insurance now, but read the fine print very, very carefully to make sure they don't have any 'new policy' exclusions.

As for TheBoy, a screw 'im. He just wants his ego stroked. Went my best friend's dad passed away suddenly last month, her husband and I arrived on the scene at the same time. She walked right by him to cry on my shoulder. I don't think he took it personally, and I don't care if he did. You don't know right away who's going to make you feel better in a time of panic, you just have to go with it.

Hope your luck improves!

sarah said...

You've just hit a streak of bad luck. Doesn't mean you're a failure. But I understand your feelings on that because God knows, that's how I've been feeling for a while now. Hope things get better. If you need an extra vent, you know how to find me =)

T-town Girl said...

Don't let his issues become your problems. I love TheBoy but right now this is about you taking care of this accident. Because it happened to you and you alone; you are entitled to deal with it in any way you see fit. While you shouldn’t have to deal with his disappointment over not being your first choice in a crisis, you at least know he wants to be there for you. So that is nice.

Aarwenn said...

Wise words from wise women, all of you.

Shananigans said...

I’m so sorry Aarwenn! That’s super sucky, but that doesn’t make you a failure. The motorcyclist has survived and will recover. I see so many scary motorcycle moves on the roads here every day. I’m scared to death that I’m gonna be switching lanes one day and drive into one that’s splitting lanes. And TheBoy, yes it’s nice that he wants to be there for you, but you shouldn’t have to go to him first if that’s not what you think is best. It could be an ego thing for him, who knows, but in crisis it’s really best to go with your gut.

We play the timesheet game around here too and HR gets pretty persnickety when the all important timesheets are not in on time and perfect. Don’t worry tough, I really doubt it’s an issue to be fired over.

I’m so glad the doggies get along! You should post pics of them together!

Hope you have a good Friday! Gotta be better than yesterday anyway, right?

LaLaLa said...

Thank god you're ok! And thank god the motorcycle dude is ok too. You're not a failure - these things happen and you just have to deal. Things could be a lot worse. Take time to re-group this weekend...and about forgetting the time thing at work. I was notorius for forgetting about these little things at work. Do you have outlook? Can you set up a reminder for your self?

Relax this weekend...are you going to keep the jeans?

The World Against Me said...

The most important thing is that everyone is safe. You are ok and that's good.

And you said it.. the rest is just monetary. don't trip..

You are not a failure.. You had an awesome day on Wednesday.. it's the strange forces of nature balancing things out.. you know how that it..

Hang in there

Shari said...

How scary. Not to be selfish, but I'm glad I wasn't in the area of the traffic jam. Yeah, Puyallup and it's non-traffic (mostly) existence!

kiwi said...

disciplinary action means they put a note in your file, not that the fire you. At least not yet. And I suppose since you were supposed to be sick you couldn't tell him your excuse for not signing your widgiemahoo was that you were in an accident.

Speaking as the former motorcyclist in the crowd: Ouch.

I'm completely unclear how any of this makes you a failure, however.

ramblin' girl said...

Aarwenn- so sorry. hope your weekend was good!

GlitterGlamGirl05 said...

Talk about one thing leading to another. I'm just glad you and the motorcycle man are okay.

Keep your chin up!

Aarwenn said...

Oh yeah--and I'm keeping two pairs, voted by BestFriend to be the most butt-enhancing, and you can read the success of at least one pair in the post entitled, "Good Things DO Happen".

kt said...

that's why i'm scared to go anywhere if i play hooky..

glad you're ok!


i HATE submitting timesheets..