Related Rant
On a totally unrelated note, the asshole engineer that I liked (hey, can I help how I'm made?) is MARRIED. And does not wear a FUCKING RING. So when he (A*hole) and my friend, E, came up to my desk to eat the last of my cookies, (hey, I offered them to them) and they were telling me some story about some girlfriend of their friend's who was coming on to A*hole, and he had mentioned some girl's name, I said, "Wait, don't you have a girlfriend?" and he goes, "No, I have a wife! I'm married!"
WAY TO MENTION YOUR WIFE BEFORE THIS, YOU ASS. Way to wear a ring. Way to talk about going out with E and the boys on the weekends and never mention a little woman at home.
Way to go, indeed.
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WTF? Every married person has an obligation to let the world know their off-the-market status by wearing the ring! Unequivocal asshole indeed.
Ugh! How freaking typical. Girl...I'm with you on this...it's hard enough to find a nice guy to be interested in..you thinks it's a 'go' to turn on the charm b/c of no ring...only to find out he's married and doesn't advertise. WTF?! Total squishing of your daytime fantasy.
By the way, my last 'singles' post was "Life can be so cruel." But not to worry, after this weekend I have a whole other one lined up to post this week.
Maybe he didn't think to mention it because you just seemed like one of the guys to him. Just a thought.
I'm inviting a lot of criticism, I know.
I guess that's possible. Are you saying that, if I were a male occasional friend, he automatically wouldn't have mentioned his wife to me because guys don't talk about wives? Or at least that he's statistically less likely to mention his wife to guys than he is to girls? If so, frankly, I didn't know that guys make it a policy to not mention wives. Girls mention their significant others all the time, or at least most of them do--I'm not one of them. And when I mentioned mine to him, before he said he was married, I saw him jump a little. He wasn't expecting it.
And then again, maybe it's all in my head. Who knows?
But he knows I'm a woman, all right. The first time we talked for longer than a few minutes he went off on a rant about women in engineering and insulted the shit out of me. He said later that he likes to test people's boundaries to find out when they get offended. That sounds to me like his brain a) registered I was a woman, b) tailored his conversation to insult me on the strength of (a).
Yah...Way to go A-HOLE!
Men treat women who are just one of the boys (or, at least, feign as much) differently. Of course he registers that you're a female, Ms. Sarcasm. But there's a difference between being a female and being feminine, which I'm sure you know. How that relates to why he didn't mention his wife specifically needs a lot more speculation than I care to do right here. It's just a hunch.
I know a few guys that don't wear rings, and have neglected to mention the wife... I don't know the whole story in your case, but if this was the first time if a significant other was mentioned (you asking about a gf), then maybe the conversation had never happened where it would be easy to mention her... just a possibility... you know me, always trying to see both sides of the story... damn middle child in me!
grrrrr..
every male coworker i hang out with always makes it a point to mention if he's married, so yeah, that's a little creepy.
on a semi-unrelated note. i had a coworker ask me if i wanted to do a tank-pull on a job site. then said "last time i did a tank pull, my wife got pregnant". ummm.. funny? yes. appropriate conversation? probably not...
Ah, men.
BWA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA!!!
Jen, thanks for making my day. I love that you break your coworkers down to an old guy, a fat guy, and a young nerdy guy. :-D
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