Saturday, September 24, 2005

Related Rant

On a totally unrelated note, the asshole engineer that I liked (hey, can I help how I'm made?) is MARRIED. And does not wear a FUCKING RING. So when he (A*hole) and my friend, E, came up to my desk to eat the last of my cookies, (hey, I offered them to them) and they were telling me some story about some girlfriend of their friend's who was coming on to A*hole, and he had mentioned some girl's name, I said, "Wait, don't you have a girlfriend?" and he goes, "No, I have a wife! I'm married!"

WAY TO MENTION YOUR WIFE BEFORE THIS, YOU ASS. Way to wear a ring. Way to talk about going out with E and the boys on the weekends and never mention a little woman at home.

Way to go, indeed.

12 comments:

Shananigans said...

WTF? Every married person has an obligation to let the world know their off-the-market status by wearing the ring! Unequivocal asshole indeed.

Linny said...

Ugh! How freaking typical. Girl...I'm with you on this...it's hard enough to find a nice guy to be interested in..you thinks it's a 'go' to turn on the charm b/c of no ring...only to find out he's married and doesn't advertise. WTF?! Total squishing of your daytime fantasy.

By the way, my last 'singles' post was "Life can be so cruel." But not to worry, after this weekend I have a whole other one lined up to post this week.

Anonymous said...

Maybe he didn't think to mention it because you just seemed like one of the guys to him. Just a thought.

I'm inviting a lot of criticism, I know.

Aarwenn said...

I guess that's possible. Are you saying that, if I were a male occasional friend, he automatically wouldn't have mentioned his wife to me because guys don't talk about wives? Or at least that he's statistically less likely to mention his wife to guys than he is to girls? If so, frankly, I didn't know that guys make it a policy to not mention wives. Girls mention their significant others all the time, or at least most of them do--I'm not one of them. And when I mentioned mine to him, before he said he was married, I saw him jump a little. He wasn't expecting it.

And then again, maybe it's all in my head. Who knows?

But he knows I'm a woman, all right. The first time we talked for longer than a few minutes he went off on a rant about women in engineering and insulted the shit out of me. He said later that he likes to test people's boundaries to find out when they get offended. That sounds to me like his brain a) registered I was a woman, b) tailored his conversation to insult me on the strength of (a).

KikiGill said...

Yah...Way to go A-HOLE!

Leah said...

That guy is weirdbeard. I mean it's not like "oh i didn't tell you i have a dog" because that's understandable but the wife thing that should be something he would be like "fuck yeah i have a wife it's awesome." in my opinion at least.

not anyonymous anymore said...

Men treat women who are just one of the boys (or, at least, feign as much) differently. Of course he registers that you're a female, Ms. Sarcasm. But there's a difference between being a female and being feminine, which I'm sure you know. How that relates to why he didn't mention his wife specifically needs a lot more speculation than I care to do right here. It's just a hunch.

ramblin' girl said...

I know a few guys that don't wear rings, and have neglected to mention the wife... I don't know the whole story in your case, but if this was the first time if a significant other was mentioned (you asking about a gf), then maybe the conversation had never happened where it would be easy to mention her... just a possibility... you know me, always trying to see both sides of the story... damn middle child in me!

kt said...

grrrrr..

every male coworker i hang out with always makes it a point to mention if he's married, so yeah, that's a little creepy.

on a semi-unrelated note. i had a coworker ask me if i wanted to do a tank-pull on a job site. then said "last time i did a tank pull, my wife got pregnant". ummm.. funny? yes. appropriate conversation? probably not...

Aarwenn said...

Ah, men.

jen said...

My Dad & brother don't wear rings cause they do actual labor during the day and don't want to rip their fingers off. But, you can bet your ass my future husband will be wearing his ring!! Hands off to every other girl!
This guy just sounds like a total dick though. I'm glad I work with an old guy, a fat guy, and a young nerdy guy.

Aarwenn said...

BWA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA!!!

Jen, thanks for making my day. I love that you break your coworkers down to an old guy, a fat guy, and a young nerdy guy. :-D